Heyy Guys! There was a lot of talk about arranged marriage and how it was a new idea to many people. Here is a video that may help you understand it a bit better. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nYHeLoj1H2Q
The situation in this video is more ideal, but the general idea is the same. However I wanted to say how surprised I was, when people in this class were a lot more understanding than I had expected. There were some interesting points made on relationship in relation to happiness. I know one of the couples talked about, was in a bad relationship. However I wanted to talk about my own family a little bit more. Now everyone in my Grandma’s generation is arranged with the exception of my Grandmas older brother, the first of five. He was initially in a love marriage which ended in divorce, and than a marriage was “arranged” for him. I am not trying to say that one type of marriage is better than the other but rather trying to take out a great deal of misconceptions. My parents generation was arranged as well. All with the exception of my three aunts who were actually raised in the united states. Now I am the oldest of my generation in respect to my mom’s side and my time is approaching. I am not forced into one side or an other, but my parents do want me to have a life partner, and they wont me to get one before I get a job. My mother believes if one become to independent it will create problems in marriage. Now I will have the option of choosing people and “courting them.” So the idea that many people have, surprise Im your husband is not very true, at least not so much in this age. I mean it does not mean people necessarily marry who they love rather they love who they marry.